Are we all doing it? And if so, how often? And are we doing it correctly? Are what else is there to try? And what one person likes, another might hate.
But there are some specific ways to ensure that your bedroom action will be as pleasurable as possible for you and your partner. In fact, these are the 50 best sex tips to ever come out of Cosmo. They have withstood the test of time because they work. Have your partner try the Kivin method. This oral sex technique for those pleasuring a woman has the giver approach you from the side, rather than face-on.
Annabelle Knight, sex expert at Lovehoney, explains that instead of licking up and down your vulva, your partner should lick side to side and straight across the clitoral hood for an orgasmic feeling. Get on top. Woman on top provides easier access to your vulva and clitoris than in other positions. Add a vibrator into the mix for even more pleasure. Make a masturbation playlist. Use lube.
Seriously, enough with the stigma that lube is for dried-up older women. Ramp up your desire all day by engaging in some light sexting at work. Try the Amazon sex position.
Or any wild sex position. Ensure that your partner has easy access to your clitoris by really getting in there and setting up the scene for them. Sure, light vulva licking is great, but why waste time and risk your partner getting lost down there? Try a vibrator with sonic waves. Your clitoris is like an iceberg. The part that you can see is only a small portion of it. Ditch the eye contact in reverse cowgirl.
While sex face-to-face certainly has its moments, change it up by getting on top and facing away from your partner. From here, you have total freedom to make whatever O-face you want, and you can put on a show for them at the same time with your bouncing butt.
You contain multitudes. Work on your non-sexual touch. Find a way to work in hair stroking, back rubs, hand holding, anything PG that encourages you and your partner to show physical affection for one another. Zone in on the upper left-hand quadrant of your clitoris.
Megan Andelloux , executive director at the Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health, says many women find this is the most receptive part of their clit. Try a sex game where you trade off. This is great for putting an emphasis on foreplay. Do it in front of a mirror. Doggie style intercourse in front of a full-length mirror allows you one of the best seats in the house. You can lock eyes tenderly in the mirror or go at it with carnal thrusting, all while checking each other out at the same time.
Get a pair of nipple clamps. Nipple clamps are great because they can provide hands-free stimulation during sex. Slap a pair on and your hands are free to still touch yourself during foreplay or sex. You can adjust the intensity throughout too, getting tighter or looser as you approach climax. Prioritize oral sex. Communicate with your partner so you can both discover what works best for you in terms of giving and receiving. And when we say a few nights, we mean a few nights.
Expecting to cram life-changing oral into your lives via one night puts way too much pressure on both of you. Real talk: Roughly 70 percent of women need more clitoral stimulation to O during sex — so reach down and touch yourself during the deed! You feel in control of your O, and he's super turned on. For a twist on missionary , lie on your back, and lift your legs up and over to one side as he enters you. Raising your legs makes you supertight, and the angle of your hips means he'll hit spots that rarely get TLC.
Get him to skip the in-and-out thrusts and, uh, stir with his penis instead. He'll stimulate every inch of you motion of the ocean and all that…. Sit on the edge of the washing machine, and wrap your legs around his waist as he enters you.
Helpful hint: The cotton cycle provides the strongest vibrations. In reverse-cowgirl , lean back instead of forward toward his feet. It's a primo G-spot angle for you and the illusion of a Kardashi-ass for him. The no. Take the head in your mouth, and lick and swirl like you would a soft-serve cone. Mean while, use your hands to grip, squeeze, and stroke the length of his penis. Don't keep up the same motion — variety of sensation is key! Instead of pleasing each other simultaneously during 69 so hard to focus! One person goes to town, while the other groans and moans about how good it feels.
While he's giving you oral , have him insert a finger or two and stroke your G-spot with a come-hither motion. Internal and external stimulation boosts your orgasm chances. Lube up! Almost 50 percent of women say lube makes it easier to orgasm. And forget the myth that it's only for older women — all the cool kids are doing it! If you have no clue whether your partner's dirty-talk meter is set to "a little naughty" or "downright filthy," do a sneaky little test. Ask, "What would you like me to do to you?
Details, please. Then follow his lead. Usually get oral with your legs spread? Intensify your O by stretching your legs straight out, stimulating the pelvic muscles you use to climax.
It's a crazy-good new sensation. Gently hold his face still , tell him to stop moving, and let him simply receive your kisses for a minute. That way, whether you like it slow or hot and heavy, he'll know how to kiss you back. Vintage Cosmo Tip, June "All women should try for a little more variety … a little more shock value.
Our road test: Naked except for black Manolos and a long blonde wig very unlike my curly brown hair, I was already three "test" martinis deep when I wobbled to the door and greeted R. Reluctant Male Participant, aka my boyfriend of almost two years. First, he seemed surprised, then slightly scared. But with some R-rated coaxing, I could tell he was getting into it. After we had sex, he gave me puppy-dog eyes. Did I mention I'd had three martinis?
He shrugged and shook his head: "I missed my girlfriend. Just started dating? Set the precedent and make sure you come first. Women often focus on their guy's orgasm and treat themselves as an afterthought. Since we're all creatures of habit, doing the reverse pays off in the long run. Ask him to trace his tongu e over your thin-skinned spots: wrists, inner knees, behind your ears. It'll make you shiver. While standing with your back against his chest , have him reach around and touch you so all you can see are his hands all over you — totally sexy.
Wrap your fingers in an "O" shape around the base of his shaft, and move them in tandem with your mouth. Use lots of saliva to ease the movement, and he won't be able to tell where your mouth ends and your hand begins. Gently cup his balls with your other hand and you're golden. Try the "commercial sex" game. Start getting it on during the commercials of your favorite show, then untangle as soon as the show comes back. Sexy show?
Copy their moves. As you graduate from makeouts to oral to intercourse and back?